” Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family: whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one” – Jane Howard
In the final post in this series on Raising an Unbreakable Child, I’d like to discuss the third factor identified in resilient children, namely, extended community.
Organic community is declining rapidly in this country. We move away from our families for jobs, we have one hundred “friends” on Facebook but don’t know our neighbors, we are hesitant to be “joiners” of anything from churches to clubs to sports leagues. We can easily live in our cars and inside our houses, creating a bubble around our families with little meaningful connections to the outside world.
It Really Does Take a Village
Children need community. Children need witnesses for their lives- people who knew them as a child AND as a teenager. People who are invested in them learning certain lessons, becoming their best selves. We are foolish if we think that in today’s world, we as parents are enough to teach and protect our children from the landmines that await them.