One of the most difficult parts about transitioning into motherhood is the sudden isolation that occurs upon the arrival of your infant. Where you were once out in the world of “adults” on a daily basis- at work, at dinners with friends, extracurricular activities, you are now regulated to a homebound life with nap schedules and conversations with a baby who can’t talk back. Friends who don’t have children don’t entirely relate or understand what now consumes your days, and spouses can become the only adult interaction you have all day. This leaves many mothers feeling lonely, isolated, and overwhelmed.
‘Cause You Gotta Have Friends
One of the saving graces of the craziness of motherhood is your relationship with other mothers. Women who are in the trenches with you, women who are living your reality, and who can comfort and aide you in a way that no other can. But if you are a new mother, there is not always a readily available group of mothers to step into. So you have to seek it out. You have to proactively make Mommy Friends, which can be awkward and uncomfortable at first. If you are not a “joiner”, now might be the time to become one.
OC Moms Groups
Orange County is filled with resources for mothers, including some excellent options for Mother’s Groups. There are countless options for getting out of the house with your baby and meeting other moms. One great option is the MOPS ( Mothers of Preschoolers)program, which is a national program that partners up with individual churches to offer support and community for mothers of young children. The MOPS program at Mariner’s Church in Newport Beach is excellent, with amazing childcare and informative speakers ( plus you get a hot breakfast! What would be better!). I myself have greatly benefited from this group, and my children love it. They are currently doing registration for Spring Session and slots fill up fast so I recommend registering sooner than later. ( Note: This program is open to anyone with a child under the age of 5. Babies too!)
If you don’t want a group with a religious affiliation, Moms Club is another great resource and is organized by where you live, so you will be with a group of women who live in the same neighborhood as you. Whatever you are looking for- you can probably find it- OC Family magazine has a wonderful comprehensive list of all the moms clubs available in Orange County.
So widen your circle. Whatever it is, a moms group or just a regular group of moms to meet at the park, having community with other women who are in the same stage of life as your can be a tremendous help in enriching and supporting your experience of motherhood.